Acknowledging Emotions in Job Change & Recruiting

Carol Metzner • January 7, 2022

Recently a LinkedIn connection commented on a posting that I put emotion in my recruiting. It implied that was not a good quality and one should focus on facts when talking to candidates. Job change, whether by choice or force, brings with it a myriad of emotions. When talking with potential candidates, I think it is critical to understand the “feelings” that accompany the logical factors that go into a decision to explore new opportunities.

Based on 35 years of my market specialty of executive search in the A/E sector, the majority of clients and candidates working with me are self-described logical thinking types. Recently, I read a description of logical thinking decision makers as one in which “skills require and involve a progressive analysis, for example, by weighing all available options, using facts and figures, and making important decisions based on the pros and cons. They do not take into account the elements of feelings and emotions.” Using logical thinking only and ignoring the strong emotions that are involved in leaving one employer for a next is a recipe for disaster.


Many of us spend more hours working then not. Even with Covid-19, our computers and phones keep us connected to colleagues and bosses. Board of Directors, leadership teams and project groups still meet. We foster connections that feel like an extension of our families. Leaving an employer means disappointing friends, colleagues, bosses and clients. Even when leaving for an outstanding career opportunity, it is common to experience some sense of loss. Not acknowledging the feelings involved will also lead candidates to be shocked when counter offers are made, which combine money and guilt. If one is fired from their job, then a host of rational and irrational emotions come up to the surface. Again, no acknowledgement will lead a candidate to possibly accept a bad job offer.



So, job change is rarely made without emotion. Utilizing logic and understanding the emotions with job change and decision-making can help you to make a solid, rational decision. Choosing a recruiter who understands both, can help you to navigate the less than smooth waters and get you successfully to your destination.


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Thanksgiving Pause

By Carol Metzner • December 18, 2025
As a recruiter, I move fast—searches, decisions, conversations that shape careers. But Thanksgiving reminds me to slow down, breathe, and appreciate the bigger picture. Gratitude isn’t just seasonal; it’s the foundation of meaningful relationships and clearer perspective. Each person I meet reminds me of resilience, ambition, and possibility—and that’s what keeps me inspired. Wishing you time to decompress, reconnect, and carry that spirit into the season ahead.

Networking Is A Two-Way Street!

By Carol Metzner • December 18, 2025
We’ve all seen it: a colleague facing a career crossroads reaches out to every connection they’ve built — asking for introductions, advice, or simply a listening ear. Many of us respond, because we understand the stakes. The fear of unemployment or being in a role that no longer fits is real. But then they land. The pressure lifts. And when others reach out to them for support, the response is… silence. In today’s climate, where so many talented A/E/C executives are exploring new opportunities, navigating leadership transitions, or rethinking their next chapter, let’s remember that networking is a two-way street. ✅ If someone helped you during your search, be the person who helps them now. ✅ If you’re in a stable role, take a moment to respond to those reaching out. ✅ If you’re navigating change, lean on your network — but also nurture it. The consulting engineering sector thrives on collaboration, trust, and long-term partnerships. Let’s extend that same spirit to how we support one another professionally. We rise by lifting each other — not just when we need help, but when others do.